I have noticed that a lot of people love the sound of their own voice, with a strong desire to be heard above every other person, like being loud means being right. Of course being confident is admirable, however being obnoxious on the other hand… It seems like a lot of people don’t know when or how, to shut up.
I promise, it’s okay to say you don’t know much about a topic or you simply don’t have an opinion about a situation, it doesn’t make you seem less than smart.
Maybe it’s because I don’t feel the need to talk all the time regardless of what type of setting I find myself. Especially in formal settings, I like to be brief and relevant, that is if I even decide to speak. I prefer listening to what other people have to say; I believe, you actually learn a lot more that way, plus you have the added advantage of seeing things from different perspectives.
Instead of listening just so you can chip in your own thoughts, you should actually listen to understand and then contribute appropriately.
Have you ever been in meetings that are dragged on for so long just because every Tayo, Dozie and Hafusa want to talk so they can seem relevant and knowledgeable? When in fact they are making a mockery of their own existence in that moment. I have been in such meetings and I promise you, it’s one of the most infuriating situations ever, thank God for self-control.
Some people also don’t know how to just enjoy being in someone’s presence, they have to go and ruin the ambience with pointless conversation. Relationships you have with individuals where you can just sit side by side in silence and be comfortable, are to be cherished.
I will never understand why some people don’t understand the concept of comfortable, relaxing silence. Where you can just appreciate the other person’s presence and that’s enough for that moment.
I’m just trying to say that silence can be a great thing and being silent sometimes is more valuable than opening your mouth. Before you ruin the silence, think first, is it worth it?