Damned If You Do, Damned If You Don’t?

Well that’s the shape marriage is taking for most people around the globe. With the internet and social media, a lot of relationship start and end right before of our eyes. A handful of these relationship are actually marriages…

I believe that the concept of marriage is as old as the existence of man. I’ve heard theories about how marriage is really a social construct that benefits men and government; I honestly can’t remember the details. Pretty much saying that marriage is not a natural concept and is doomed…eventually (you know how they say man is not naturally monogamous…yeah that BS)

However, in every society across the globe getting married at some point in your life is the norm but the intricate details and format of the union is unique to each society; whether polygamy, underage marriage, arranged marriage etc.

What I’m trying to say is that subconsciously marriage is a major life milestone that everyone tries to achieve due to society and culture.  Although now, there is a growing number of people who are going against the norm. What’s funny though is that these ‘strayers‘ still want that companionship that marriage gives you but without the ‘constraints’.

Back to my point though, I genuinely believe marriage can be a wonderful experience filled with extreme high and extreme lows, however in the best case scenario those lows are wide and far between! And I honestly believe that is achievable.

The rampant rate of divorces though! I won’t lie if that doesn’t scare me! Because you see people that were so seemingly in love call it quits; it’s so disheartening and could be discouraging (if you let it). Which is why I don’t believe in #RelationshipGoals! Nah boo, I don’t really know what’s going on behind closed doors.

I guess what I’m trying to say is,  how can one really look forward to marriage with all this supposed doom surrounding the establishment? And at the same time how does one reject the concept of marriage without facing some sort of disapproval and perhaps stigma from the community?

I feel every relationship is unique and a couple who is constantly on the same page, sharing the same vision and values, will put in the sweat, blood and tears required to make it work; while enjoying the  ride.

See, if you can have the mentality to be successful no matter what (as a lot of people do),  why not have the same approach when it comes to marriage?

Don’t give up on true love guys, what’s worth having is worth fighting for…

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