It’s been over a month since Chester Bennington, the lead singer of Linkin Park, ended his own life thanks to a severe combination of abuse and depression. On it’s own, abuse is already a damaging experience but what I intend to address today is the warped perception most Nigerians have in relation to the later…almighty DEPRESSION.
Here’s a quick example for you to get my angle. Just yesterday, before I went meat hunting, we had a discussion at home and my dearest older brother said “how can you be depressed when you have a lot of money. I’ll just be travelling the world to the point where depression sef no go see chance get me”. All I could do was laugh. Why do people still feel depression is a fallacy? I mean, this guy had a lot of money and still wasn’t satisfied with life. Neither was the great Robin Williams. A woman in the UK who had just hit the jackpot in their national lottery stated that money solved nothing before she killed herself. In your face bruh, what do you have to say about that?
There are very many things that people feel but cannot share because the society we live in, rather than provide them with a solution or a means to ease their pain, will criticize and persecute you…thereby leading to their already terrible condition getting worse. I have a bad phobia for men who are gay. Not because they are not human beings but because a tenant’s male cousin attempted to perforate my backside. I was lucky enough to escape and threatened to report should he attempt it again. But I can’t even mention it to my siblings because then they start to justify why I act in certain ways. “Abajo to kun ekanna e” (No wonder you painted your nails), “Oh, no wonder you wear tightly fitted clothes”, etc. Like I need any more of that while trying to make you understand things. Has it occurred to you that I might be gothic? What the fuck is wrong with y’all?
Anyways, it’s important to understand that each individual has his or her demons. Some are worse than yours but you’ll never know what they are going through because they aren’t comfortable enough to share. But they have their tells. What type of songs do they listen to? What new style have they adopted? Does he or she stay cooped up and is suddenly antisocial? Try as much as possible to pay attention. You just might save a life.