Decisions! Decisions!! Decisions!!! That’s mostly what this adulting scam is all about. You always have to choose one thing or the other. Do I turn left or right? Up, down, diagonally, roundabout, halfway round? What should I say? What should I do? When should I go? Should I leave? And so on.
Now there are some who just seem to have quite the knack for it, they just never seem to never get it wrong. But I dare say it looks easy from the outside, even they have it tough. Nothing iterated this better for me than when I was watching a series and a character, who was the Chancellor of the colony, said to the council members “We make the best decisions we can then put our faith in a forgiving God”. This most descriptive summary of this thing called adulting.
This realization helped me stop insulting people based on the decisions they might have made. No one has the right to insult another person’s decision. In a similar scenario, your decision might have been worse. Put yourself in the person’s shoes and if you feel he or she could have done better advice instead. Avoid kicking them when they’re down.
I lost a very close friend recently. But I didn’t lose said person to death; thank God, but rather to life. I had been holding on for a while but I realized halfway into the long three years of our friendship that I had become toxic to her. She revolved her world around me but the reverse wasn’t the case. A couple of mutual friends had advised her to let go but she never listened. In fact, one of her friend called me a spiritual cock-blocker as I was low-key the reason she couldn’t have a significant other.
I made a decision for us both. I became that douche bag. The ultimate male scum. Stopped picking her calls. Ignored her messages and refused to help at every point possible. I just turned moot. I know it hurts but it’s for the best; at least that’s what I tell myself. I hope from the bottom of my heart that she finds her truth and is able to move forward. *sigh* LIFE SUCKS!